5 Self Love Languages

Namita Sayani
3 min readMar 28, 2022

I am having an affair ! I am in love and I want to give my 100% to this relationship. I am in love with myself.

How beautiful this feeling is. Have you ever fallen in love with yourself?

The journey of self development starts with self love. Self love is the base, the foundation to everything you want in your life. Take responsibility for your life, only you can be responsible to take your life forward to where you want to be or who you want to become.

Why do we need others to complete us? Why we need someone else to accept us. Why wait for others to love us when we are enough for ourself. Self love is the most important way of showing others how to treat you.

Believe in yourself, if you want to become who you want to become, then you have to work on your limiting beliefs and break those barriers that are stopping you from moving ahead in life.

Take care of yourself if you want to give your 100% to someone or something, first you need to give that 100% to yourself, only then you are capable of giving. Keep your cup full before you pour from it to others.

Love is a language of heart. Ask this question to yourself, If you need to love yourself what will you do? What is it that will make you feel loved? What is it that will make you feel special? Have you heard about FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES? Yes love language you read it right. So what are these 5 languages?

  1. Physical Touch- Things that make your body feel good, like a massage/spa/skin care
  2. Act of service- Doing things for yourself that makes life easier for you, like planning/delegating
  3. Quality time- Spending time alone and doing things you like, like reading/meditation/yoga
  4. Receiving gifts- buying gifts or spending money for yourself that give you joy, like makeup/clothes/vacations
  5. Words of affirmations- Giving yourself a pep talk or encouragement, like self motivation

For me, my self love language is Quality Time. I love spending time with myself, I love reading self help books, I love playing with my furry boy ZuZu, I love going for long drives. See which is that language that makes you feel special, pampered, heard, loved. Choose that and do that for yourself and see how your self image transforms and evolves.

I am a big self love advocate and I believe self love is not selfish. The journey of self realisation starts with yourself. The moment you realise that it only takes one person to change your life and that is YOU, you can achieve anything in life. When you are happy with yourself, when you like yourself, when you love and respect yourself then you don’t need anyone else to love and accept you.

Love is not something you DO, Love is something you BECOME. Be aware of your emotions, feelings and thoughts, be who you want to become. Don’t undervalue yourself, if you do, the world will undervalue who you are.

The best relationship you can have is with yourself. The relationship which will last life long.

Be enough for yourself, be kind to yourself, be proud of who you are. Put yourself in top of the to-do list everyday. Make yourself a priority, have a love affair with yourself.

“Loving yourself starts with liking yourself, which starts with respecting yourself, which starts with thinking of yourself in positive ways”.

— Jerry Corsten

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Namita Sayani

I am an Image Consultant & a Life Coach. I am on a mission to help women redesign their life and bring out their true potential to be the best version of them.